You’re not broken, you’re in transition
You don’t feel like yourself.
You’re functioning. You’re showing up. You’re doing what needs to be done.
But something feels off.
Maybe you’re more anxious than you used to be. Maybe you’re snappier. Maybe you’re exhausted in a way that sleep doesn’t fix. Maybe you’re quietly wondering, What’s wrong with me?
I want to offer you something gently but clearly:
You are NOT broken.
It might be that you’re in transition.
Midlife Isn’t a Crisis — It’s a Recalibration
So many women reach their 30s, 40s and 50’s, and suddenly find the old ways of coping just don’t work anymore.
You may be:
Parenting young children (or teenagers)
Navigating perimenopause
Questioning your career
Re-evaluating your relationship
Grieving parts of yourself you’ve outgrown
This isn’t weakness. It’s evolution.
But evolution is uncomfortable.
When our identity shifts — when who we’ve been no longer quite fits — anxiety and low mood often show up. Not because you’re failing, but because something inside you is asking to be renegotiated.
The “I Should Be Fine” Trap
One of the most common patterns I see in therapy is this:
“Other people have it worse.”
“I should be grateful.”
“I’m lucky really.”
And yet — you don’t feel fine.
Suppressing discomfort because you think you should be okay only drives it underground. It often comes back as insomnia, overthinking, irritability, or that persistent sense that you’ve somehow lost yourself.
Therapy as Reconnection
In CBT therapy, we gently explore:
What beliefs are driving your anxiety?
What expectations are you carrying?
Where did those standards come from?
And are they still serving you?
This isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about helping you understand yourself in this new season of life.
Transitions aren’t signs of collapse. They’re invitations to re-align.
If you don’t quite recognise yourself right now, that doesn’t mean you’ve disappeared.
It may simply mean you’re becoming.
If this resonates, you don’t have to navigate it alone. I offer CBT therapy in London and online across the UK, supporting women through identity shifts, anxiety, and life transitions.